Invisibility: The Inner Light, Stifled

When I say, “I feel invisible,” I am not throwing myself a pity party or lamenting that no one at a social gathering wants to talk to me, although this may have been true before my understanding and levels of perception evolved. Read on for my perspective, explained, and some soul-soothing tips for empaths.

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Follow Your Whims

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Sonnenberg Gardens, Canandaigua, NY. Photo taken by Holley Hyler.

Soul guidance can feel gentle. So gentle that we could be imagining it – and this is what we tell ourselves when we grow numb to it. One of my biggest challenges on this spiritual path has been staying open to guidance after suffering; it can be hard to separate myself from the pain or to see any purpose in it. In this state, it is nearly impossible to connect with God or the love that is already inside and all around me.

When you are in great need, Spirit can give you a sign so clear that there is no denying a Higher Power, a world beyond this one. I prayed hard and asked for help, and I received such a sign recently. But I had to follow Spirit’s gentle nudge in order to receive it. I followed what seemed like a whim and ended up in exactly the right place at the right time, with the right people. Then my undeniable sign was delivered to me.

We can ask for help and think that our request was ignored, but what really happened was that we didn’t open to receive the answer. Sometimes guidance and communication from beyond do seemingly drop from the sky or come from nowhere, but most of the time, you have to align yourself to receive. You have to take some action. Before I followed my whim, most of me wanted to stay at home in bed or drink. I was mired in a thick depression, a boredom so strong that I found no meaning in anything. My mind tried to tell me, “It will be no point to go there.”

I am glad I did not listen.

Follow your whims. Don’t plan so much – Spirit can’t work with us when we’re rigid. Spirit can’t work with us when we’ve given up, either.

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Mercury Retro & Conflicting Realities


We are in the final days of this Mercury retrograde season (whew!), and I have found myself getting my wires crossed with someone else multiple times throughout this cosmic event.

One truth that has occurred to me is that I am always responding from the reality I am experiencing, and this reality does not always match another person’s. Read on to see how this can cause confusion, and even broken relationships…

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Musings, poetry

Choose or Consume

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Rainbow Falls, Watkins Glen State Park, NY. Photo taken by Holley Hyler.

Why does your heart break
and close?

Because you take “not right now”
as “never.”
Because you take “no” to that
as to yourself.

You think of all the times
they did not say “I love you” back,
and forget the times they did.

You thought “I love you”
had to be said with words,
and neglected the times it was
said with a look, a breath, a touch.

You called your heart stupid,
your yearnings trivial,
closed your ears to the voices
who encouraged you.

Stop that.

You’re human, yes,
but not a porcelain doll.

You don’t have to
close your eyes to ugliness,
nor must you
hold a magnifying glass to it.

Don’t let anything consume you,
unless it is love.

If it is truly love,
it won’t.

© Holley Hyler | August 2017

Articles, politics

A Quiet Revolution

I was scrolling through Facebook and saw two very similar headlines, both inspired by the events in Charlottesville, in different online journals. The idea of the headlines was that the world needs more anger and more noise to convey that white supremacist, racist views are intolerable; that we need to be outraged and let the world see this.

I may lose some of you. I know.

I think the world has enough outrage already.

What does yelling and screaming accomplish? What does marching that turns to rioting do? What happens when you argue with a family member or friend about politics – do they see your side? Do they change their behavior or opinions?

I remember when I used to get into fights with someone close to me, he started yelling. I have never been one to raise my voice, not even with my own family. This was because yelling has never come naturally to me.

When this person yelled, I yelled back – and my only aim was to be louder than he was.

When I yelled, I thought I had good reasons. I thought, “He will see that I am not a doormat and that what he’s doing is not okay.”

The people who wrote the articles had good intentions. Yes, we should absolutely be a voice for those who don’t have one and oppose inhumane treatment of anyone. We should contribute positively in any way we can, even if it’s in a small way and we don’t see how our small action contributes to the bigger picture. Yes, anger can be a good catalyst toward positive action, but we have to be careful with it because there are so many times when I see anger only being used for… anger. Destruction. Spitting. Stabbing. Hating.

There is enough noise in the world. There are enough people trying to be louder than the opposing side.

All I need to do to feel sick is scroll through the comments on a news article.

It is possible to have the best intentions but see them smashed to bits once a response is made in anger. Despite the title of the book and movie based on the Law of Attraction, it is not a “secret” that we attract people or things based on our energetic match to them.

There are many ways to change the world. Sometimes it does take anger and outrage for change to spark. Just make sure that you aren’t staying angry and outraged. All I am suggesting is that we find a way to control the flame so that it does not become a forest fire.

Change begins on the inside. Who do you love, and who do you want to be?

Let’s start there.

Musings, poetry

Two Loves, True Love

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Japanese Garden, Sonnenberg Gardens, Canandaigua, NY. Photo taken by Holley Hyler.

maybe I met you
and you loved me
within a dream.

maybe that dream
was truer for me than anything
backed by flesh, blood, and bone.

maybe I have never
loved like that
in my waking hours.

maybe your lover and I
do not have to compete
because there is nothing to win.

my love for you does not
become false because I
am apart from you.

hers is not made truer
by the fact that she is
with you.

maybe there does not
have to be anything
wrong about that.

there does not need
to be “another woman,”
a guilty party, a chosen one.

there are only
two souls who love
you deeply, one in

waking life,
one in dreams.

© Holley Hyler | August 2017