I was scrolling through Facebook and saw two very similar headlines, both inspired by the events in Charlottesville, in different online journals. The idea of the headlines was that the world needs more anger and more noise to convey that white supremacist, racist views are intolerable; that we need to be outraged and let the world see this.
I may lose some of you. I know.
I think the world has enough outrage already.
What does yelling and screaming accomplish? What does marching that turns to rioting do? What happens when you argue with a family member or friend about politics – do they see your side? Do they change their behavior or opinions?
I remember when I used to get into fights with someone close to me, he started yelling. I have never been one to raise my voice, not even with my own family. This was because yelling has never come naturally to me.
When this person yelled, I yelled back – and my only aim was to be louder than he was.
When I yelled, I thought I had good reasons. I thought, “He will see that I am not a doormat and that what he’s doing is not okay.”
The people who wrote the articles had good intentions. Yes, we should absolutely be a voice for those who don’t have one and oppose inhumane treatment of anyone. We should contribute positively in any way we can, even if it’s in a small way and we don’t see how our small action contributes to the bigger picture. Yes, anger can be a good catalyst toward positive action, but we have to be careful with it because there are so many times when I see anger only being used for… anger. Destruction. Spitting. Stabbing. Hating.
There is enough noise in the world. There are enough people trying to be louder than the opposing side.
All I need to do to feel sick is scroll through the comments on a news article.
It is possible to have the best intentions but see them smashed to bits once a response is made in anger. Despite the title of the book and movie based on the Law of Attraction, it is not a “secret” that we attract people or things based on our energetic match to them.
There are many ways to change the world. Sometimes it does take anger and outrage for change to spark. Just make sure that you aren’t staying angry and outraged. All I am suggesting is that we find a way to control the flame so that it does not become a forest fire.
Change begins on the inside. Who do you love, and who do you want to be?
Let’s start there.